What a Great Wedding SHOULD Cost!
By Stephi Stewart, FireYourWeddingPlanner.com
If you want to have a dream wedding on any budget, the very first thing you need to do is eliminate the word SHOULD from your vocabulary!
I don't care what any other book, web site or wedding consultant tells you, there is absolutely NO WAY to predict what the percentages or costs of anything "should" be because YOU ARE UNIQUE and your wedding can be anything you want it to be.
You see, there are an endless (and I mean endless!) number of options and price ranges to choose from, and it really comes down to what you personally want, and even more importantly, what you're able to find, negotiate and achieve.
Bottom line: "It's your wedding, so act like it!
If you're thinking from a SHOULD perspective in regards to your wedding (i.e. SHOULD I do this?, What SHOULD this cost?, What SHOULD the percentages be?), you're about to fall into THE TRAP of believing that the outrageous prices and policies of the wedding industry are normal and what you "should" pay!
NOTE: If you want to be LAZY and get ripped off like the majority of brides do, go right ahead.
If, on the other hand, you'd like to turn the tables and fire up the feisty girl in you who knows what she wants, believes the impossible is possible, and is willing to do what it takes to get it, then here's what you need to do...
The questions you ask yourself (and others) are critical to your wedding success, so you need to start replacing the word SHOULD with the word COULD!
Instead of thinking in terms of What SHOULD this cost? What SHOULD the percentages be?
Why not try these on for size: What COULD this cost? What COULD the percentages be?
Do you see where I'm going with this?
COULD opens you to possibilities.
SHOULD opens you to the influence of others and industry "norms".
For example, how different would your answer be to the question, "What SHOULD my dress cost?" vs. "What COULD my dress cost?"
I used this type of thinking and ended up finding a $2000 dress for $107 at a sample sale! Now, that's not what a dress SHOULD cost is it? Who cares! It's what dress COULD cost, and that's what really matters because What a dress (or anything else) SHOULD cost is completely irrelevant!
Here's another example...
Instead of accepting that a wedding photographer "should" keep my negatives (the norm in the wedding industry), I wondered to myself if I COULD keep them so I could save a bundle on the reprints...and this enabled me to find a great photographer who was willing to let me keep MY negatives, which also saved me a fortune! All because I wondered if I COULD.
Are you getting this?
I hope so because it's really quite easy!
You can CHANGE your wedding destiny simply by shifting the way you think, the questions you ask, and how you approach wedding vendors (communicating at an unconscious level that you're in charge, NOT THEM!).